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Why Faking Class And Standards Would Not Attract Real Value

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You cannot fake class; you cannot fake standards. If you don’t have it, you don’t have it. This will be a long read as I’ll be sharing a personal story.

Towards the middle of last year, I was on the phone with my man, and our conversation drifted because I mentioned wanting some time off, a break to rest, get a massage, sleep, eat, and play, even if it was just for two days. He expressed a similar desire. So, he came up with the idea of a staycation at one of the five-star hotels in Nigeria. We traveled and stayed there for five days, and I noticed something every time we went to the hotel restaurant for breakfast or dinner.

Often, I come across TikTok videos of women advising other women on where to go when they want to meet rich, high-value men, and other similar topics. The majority of these women giving these classes aren’t married to any high-networth men; they often come off as hustlers, in my opinion, each time I watch their videos. The women we know who are truly married to high-net-worth men aren’t on the internet teaching these things. I do not disagree that location can determine a lot, but I believe that location alone is not enough.

On the very first day we arrived at the hotel, I noticed many women by the poolside in the evening, flaunting their large backsides and chests. They were either playing in the water or lounging by the pool, and I could sense the hustling spirit in the air. There were also many men, of different races, chilling by the pool. These women were scantily dressed, moving their bodies in a very rhythmic manner. Some were being very intentional and deliberate by bending low and putting their bodies on display for the men. My man whispered in my ear, “These women are hustling hard. You better hold me tight before they snatch me.” We both laughed at his Why Faking Class And Standards Would Not Attract Real Value joke, and a few minutes later, he suggested we go back to our room.

The next morning, when it was time for breakfast, we entered the restaurant, and a lady walked in wearing just panties and a top. When I say panties, I mean they were so revealing that you could see all the corners of her buttocks and thighs. An elderly woman sitting not too far from us cringed when she saw the lady walk in. My man and I exchanged glances and then immediately focused on our food. The lady didn’t sit down; she intentionally dropped her room key so she could bend and show her inner thighs to my man, as her butt was directed toward us. She began shaking her large buttocks in front of us. She stood up and did the same thing in a different direction. I noticed a white man at the other end looking at her through his glasses with disgust. She kept going to the buffet every two minutes to get more food, not because she needed it, but because it gave her another chance to shake her butt in everyone’s face. You could literally feel the side talks and disgust from the guests to the waiters. She even raised her leg at one point, gave her butt a loud spank, and drew the attention of everyone in the restaurant.

At this point, my man hissed, and the elderly woman beside us said, “The hustle is real.” She looked at us, and I nodded in agreement because all the men in the hall that day were clearly disgusted by her behavior. Eventually, she left the restaurant when no man approached her, leaving all the food she had taken from the buffet, what a waste.

That very moment, my mind went back to all these women who teach such things on the internet. Yes, it is true that men of high caliber lodge and stay in certain placthey became successful and rooted by luck? It’s not about putting on a facade; it’s about becoming a woman of substance who naturally draws the right kind of partner. A woman of substance is confident, independent, and deeply rooted in her values and principles. They tell you to dress well, get a good hairstyle, carry nice bags, sit a certain way, talk a certain way, and walk seductively, but all of these are superficial aspects of what makes a woman a person of substance and value. There’s much more to being a woman of substance. Stop raising your standards when you haven’t invested in the things that make you a whole person. Becoming a woman of substance is a journey of self-discovery, growth, and continuous improvement. It’s about building a life that reflects your values and nurturing qualities that go beyond the surface. A high-value man is naturally drawn to a woman who knows her worth, embodies integrity, and lives with purpose. By focusing on becoming the best version of yourself, you won’t have to sit in hotel restaurants and lounges to hawk your body. By focusing on living with purpose and being a person of great value to many, you’ll attract not just a high-value man but the right kind of love and relationship that aligns with who you are at your core. A person of value is never hidden, it’s like sugar; ants will come, and you’ll have the power and choice to decide who to do life with because not all high earning men are high value men but a high value man will possess much more than money. Stop looking for a rich man, stop listening to podcasts on how to catch a wealthy man, and stop hustling for “rich love.” These things are not scarce; they’re only scarce to you because you haven’t done the work that can draw these men to your light. Focus on shining your light and kings will come to the brightness of it. es, but wisdom tells you that they don’t deal with women who have nothing to lose. Even if a man does approach you with such a provocative attitude, it’s likely not for a long-term relationship but to satisfy a fleeting fantasy.

To get the best out of everything, you have to quit the hustling spirit that fuels your desperate approach.

Yes, they tell you where to meet high-value men, but you forget that it’s not just about meeting them, it’s about how to attract them, and it’s not just about attracting them, but about retaining them. If you’re looking for “Yahoo boys” who are loud and flashy with their money, maybe that approach will work. But the actual 1% of the 1%, who are excelling in their industries in this country, aren’t attracted to desperate women, nor are they attracted to women with low standards and intelligence.

Listen to me, I know we always tell you to know your worth and raise your standards, but standards must be backed by substance and value. True high standards are rooted in self-respect, which many of these ladies lack, personal development, which they don’t have, and a commitment to growth. No matter how beautiful you are or how much you try to fake it, there are some men you simply cannot attract even with your BBL and provocative body language. The woman I’m writing about was a very pretty lady with spotless skin, but her rotten behavior and low self-regard repelled the very type of men she wanted. I mean, you saw me sitting right in front of a man, and you’re busy shaking your butt at him. Hustle yen lagbara.

Let me tell you the truth, a low-value woman cannot attract a high-value man. Don’t be deceived by Nollywood movies. Even if you sit in all the lounges and restaurants of the five-star hotels in the world, attracting a high-value man isn’t about playing games because these men are rule players in any sector they belong to. You think they became successful and rooted by luck? It’s not about putting on a facade; it’s about becoming a woman of substance who naturally draws the right kind of partner. A woman of substance is confident, independent, and deeply rooted in her values and principles.

They tell you to dress well, get a good hairstyle, carry nice bags, sit a certain way, talk a certain way, and walk seductively, but all of these are superficial aspects of what makes a woman a person of substance and value. There’s much more to being a woman of substance. Stop raising your standards when you haven’t invested in the things that make you a whole person.

Becoming a woman of substance is a journey of self-discovery, growth, and continuous improvement. It’s about building a life that reflects your values and nurturing qualities that go beyond the surface. A high-value man is naturally drawn to a woman who knows her worth, embodies integrity, and lives with purpose. By focusing on becoming the best version of yourself, you won’t have to sit in hotel restaurants and lounges to hawk your body. By focusing on living with purpose and being a person of great value to many, you’ll attract not just a high-value man but the right kind of love and relationship that aligns with who you are at your core. A person of value is never hidden, it’s like sugar; ants will come, and you’ll have the power and choice to decide who to do life with because not all high earning men are high value men but a high value man will possess much more than money.

Stop looking for a rich man, stop listening to podcasts on how to catch a wealthy man, and stop hustling for “rich love.” These things are not scarce; they’re only scarce to you because you haven’t done the work that can draw these men to your light. Focus on shining your light and kings will come to the brightness of it.

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The Trump Doctrine: How One President Became the World’s Peacemaker and Africa’s Loudest Defender

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The Trump Doctrine: How One President Became the World’s Peacemaker and Africa’s Loudest Defender

 

By Boniface Ihiasota

 

For decades, the world watched leaders arrive in motorcades, speak in polished grammar, and leave behind communiqués filled with “diplomatic concern.” Then came Donald J. Trump — a leader who doesn’t do diplomatic drama. He does results.

 

And last night, the world saw it again. “Tonight, at my direction, brave American forces and the Armed Forces of Nigeria flawlessly executed a meticulously planned and very complex mission to eliminate the most active terrorist in the world from the battlefield.”

 

Abu-Bilal al-Minuki — ISIS number two — thought he could hide in Africa. He thought wrong. Under President Trump, America doesn’t ask permission to fight evil. It hunts it down, partner by partner, click by click, until the chain breaks.

 

This is the Trump difference.

 

I’ve covered three U.S. Presidents from this city. I’ve seen the speeches, the summits, the photo-ops. But I have never seen a Commander-in-Chief stationed — mentally, morally, militarily — in every corner of the globe the way Donald Trump is. From the Middle East to Europe, the Caribbean to Africa, he isn’t managing crises. He’s ending them.

 

1. HE WORKS THE TALK

 

Trump promised to make America safe. He’s doing it. He promised to make the world safe. He’s on it. Ukraine and Russia are talking peace, not war. East Africa is breathing after years of proxy chaos. Iran’s terror networks are being dismantled, not negotiated with. This is not foreign policy by press release. This is peace through strength — and it’s working.

 

2. HE TOOK THE FIGHT TO THE CARTELS AND THE CALIPHATE

 

While others debated “root causes,” Trump went for the roots. The cartel regions that bled nations dry are now hunting grounds for U.S. precision and allied resolve. Terror leadership isn’t being “contained.” It’s being eliminated. Al-Minuki’s death proves it: under Trump, there is no safe harbor for those who murder the innocent.

 

3. HE SAID THE WORDS NO ONE ELSE WOULD: “CHRISTIAN GENOCIDE IN NIGERIA”

 

For years, villages in Nigeria and across West Africa were burned while the world looked away. Past administrations sent “thoughts.” President Trump sent a message: America sees you. America hears you. America is coming. He called out the slaughter of Christians when global leaders chose silence. He named the terrorists when others called them “militants.” And last night, he backed those words with action — a joint U.S.-Nigeria strike that took ISIS leadership off the board.

 

This is not the America of 2014 that hesitated to help Nigeria. This is Trump’s America: decisive, loyal to allies, and allergic to evil.

 

4. HIS UNITED NATIONS DOCTRINE: LEADERSHIP BY ACTION, NOT TALK

 

At the United Nations General Assembly, while others traded pleasantries and empty pledges, President Trump drew a line in the sand: “The world does not need another speech. It needs a shield. Real leadership is not measured by the beauty of your words, but by the lives you save and the evil you stop.”

 

He told the world body what Africa, the Middle East, and every terror-ravaged region already knew — summits don’t stop slaughter. Strength does. Action does. Example does. And under his watch, America leads by doing, not by debating.

 

5. HE IS THE LEADER THE WORLD DIDN’T KNOW IT WAS WAITING FOR

 

A lot of people lack what Trump has: the enthronement of real leadership. Not talk. Not charm. Capacity. The capacity to make a call at 2AM and change the map by sunrise. The capacity to walk into Beijing, Moscow, Tehran, or Abuja and be both respected and feared.

 

The world is tired of leaders who are good at grammar and bad at government. Trump promised to bring back peace, and piece by piece, continent by continent, he is.

 

So let’s stop pretending this is about Trump caring for himself. President Donald J. Trump cares about the world. And today, from the Sahel to the South China Sea, the evidence is undeniable: when America leads with strength and moral clarity, humanity wins. The era of blank checks for chaos is over. The era of Trump’s peace doctrine has begun.

 

God sent a fighter. And the world is finally safe enough to admit it.

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On the Killing of ISIS Second-in-Command in Nigeria, by Alabidun Shuaib AbdulRahman

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On the Killing of ISIS Second-in-Command in Nigeria, by Alabidun Shuaib AbdulRahman

 

For years, the global war against terrorism was framed largely through the lens of the Middle East — Iraq, Syria, Afghanistan and the broader Arabian Peninsula. Yet, in the last decade, the epicentre of extremist violence has quietly shifted toward Africa, particularly the Sahel and the Lake Chad Basin. The reported killing of Abu-Bilal al-Minuki, described by both American and Nigerian authorities as the second-in-command of the Islamic State, ISIS globally, therefore represents far more than another battlefield casualty. It is a defining moment in the evolution of terrorism and counterterrorism in Africa.

 

On May 16, 2026, the United States and Nigeria announced a joint military operation that reportedly eliminated al-Minuki in the Lake Chad Basin, one of the most volatile theatres of insurgency in Africa. United States President Donald Trump described the operation as “meticulously planned and very complex,” while President Bola Tinubu hailed it as a major blow against the Islamic State network operating across West Africa.

 

The significance of the operation lies not merely in the elimination of a single terrorist commander, but in what it reveals about the changing architecture of global jihadism. Africa is no longer a peripheral front in extremist warfare; it has become its strategic centre of gravity.

 

Abu-Bilal al-Minuki was not an ordinary insurgent commander. Security assessments and intelligence reports linked him to the Islamic State West Africa Province, the ISWAP faction that emerged after Boko Haram’s split in 2016. He was reportedly involved in coordinating logistics, financing, propaganda operations and regional expansion across the Sahel. American authorities had designated him a “Specially Designated Global Terrorist” in 2023, an indication of the seriousness with which United States viewed his activities.

 

According to multiple intelligence-linked reports, al-Minuki was born in Borno State around 1982 and rose through the ranks of Boko Haram before aligning with the Islamic State network after Boko Haram pledged allegiance to ISIS in 2015. It was believed that his alias “al-Minuki” or “Mainok” derived from Mainok town in Borno State, following the regional tradition of identifying individuals by hometowns or clan affiliations.

 

This detail is important because it underscores a painful truth Nigeria has long struggled to confront: terrorism in the country is not simply an imported ideology; it is also a product of domestic fractures linking weak governance, ideological radicalisation, porous borders and decades of state neglect in the North-East among others.

 

The Lake Chad Basin itself has become one of the world’s most dangerous ungoverned spaces. Spanning Nigeria, Chad, Niger and Cameroon, the region’s marshlands and difficult terrain have enabled insurgent groups to establish fortified enclaves largely beyond the reach of conventional military operations. It is within this environment that ISWAP evolved from a regional insurgency into an internationally connected terror franchise.

 

The rise of ISWAP marked a strategic shift from Boko Haram’s earlier indiscriminate brutality. While Boko Haram under Abubakar Shekau relied heavily on mass civilian killings, village burnings and suicide bombings, ISWAP adopted a more calculated approach. It targeted military formations, imposed taxation systems in occupied communities and sought to present itself as an alternative governing authority. That strategic sophistication reportedly made figures like al-Minuki invaluable to ISIS central leadership.

 

What perhaps alarmed Western intelligence agencies most was the increasing integration between African jihadist networks and the broader Islamic State structure. American officials reportedly linked al-Minuki to ISIS’s General Directorate of Provinces and the al-Furqan media apparatus, structures central to the group’s global coordination and propaganda. This explains why his killing has drawn such international attention.

 

For Nigeria, however, the matter goes beyond global security calculations. The country has endured nearly two decades of insurgency since Boko Haram launched its violent uprising in 2009. According to estimates from humanitarian agencies and conflict monitoring groups, more than 35,000 people have been killed directly by the insurgency, while millions have been displaced across the North-East. Entire communities have been erased, agricultural systems disrupted and local economies destroyed.

 

The insurgency also exposed serious institutional weaknesses within Nigeria’s security architecture. Successive governments repeatedly claimed victory over terrorists, only for attacks to intensify afterward. Indeed, the controversy surrounding al-Minuki’s death illustrates this credibility challenge. Nigerian military sources had reportedly listed a commander bearing similar names among insurgents killed in Kaduna operations in 2024. The Presidency later explained that the earlier identification was likely a case of mistaken identity or battlefield misattribution.

 

Such contradictions have historically fuelled public scepticism. Nigerians have heard repeated declarations about the elimination of notorious terrorist leaders, only for those same figures to resurface later. The late Boko Haram leader, Abubakar Shekau, was reportedly declared dead multiple times before his actual death was confirmed in 2021. This pattern has understandably weakened public confidence in official military claims. Yet, if current reports are accurate, the elimination of al-Minuki would indeed represent a major operational success.

 

Still, history teaches that terrorism rarely collapses because of the death of a single leader. Terrorist organisations are designed to survive decapitation strikes. Leadership replacement mechanisms are usually embedded within their structures. In many cases, younger and even more radical commanders emerge after senior figures are killed.

 

The United States learned this lesson after the killing of Osama bin Laden in 2011. Al-Qaeda weakened but did not disappear. The death of ISIS founder Abu Bakr al-Baghdadi in 2019 similarly failed to extinguish the group. Instead, ISIS decentralised further, shifting operational focus toward Africa where fragile states, weak borders and local grievances created fertile conditions for expansion.

 

Indeed, security analysts now estimate that a substantial percentage of ISIS-linked attacks globally occur in sub-Saharan Africa. This is a deeply troubling development for Nigeria because it means the country increasingly occupies a frontline position in global counterterrorism efforts. The implications are both strategic and political.

 

Strategically, Nigeria’s military partnership with the United States appears to be entering a new phase. The joint operation against al-Minuki signals growing intelligence sharing, surveillance cooperation and operational coordination between both countries.

 

This is notable because relations between the two countries had recently experienced friction over allegations concerning religious persecution and broader security concerns. Yet, the al-Minuki operation suggests that mutual security interests ultimately prevailed over diplomatic disagreement.

 

However, foreign military cooperation also raises difficult sovereignty questions. Nigeria must avoid becoming excessively dependent on external powers for internal security management. Counterterrorism support is valuable, but no foreign partner can permanently secure Nigeria if the country fails to address the internal conditions feeding extremism. And this is perhaps the most important lesson from the al-Minuki episode. Terrorism in Nigeria cannot be defeated solely through military force.

 

Military operations may eliminate commanders, destroy camps and recover territories, but they do not automatically erase extremist ideology. The North-East crisis has always been multidimensional. In several insurgency-affected communities, the Nigerian state remains largely absent except through military presence. Schools are inadequate, hospitals scarce and infrastructure severely underdeveloped. In such environments, extremist groups exploit grievances and recruit vulnerable youths with alarming ease.

 

The challenge becomes even more dangerous when insurgency merges with banditry, arms trafficking and transnational organised crime. The Sahel today is experiencing precisely this convergence. Terrorist groups increasingly finance themselves through kidnapping, smuggling and illegal taxation networks. The ideological and criminal dimensions reinforce each other. This is why the killing of al-Minuki should not become an excuse for premature triumphalism. Rather, it should serve as an opportunity for sober reflection.

 

Nigeria must now ask itself difficult questions. Why has the insurgency endured for nearly seventeen years? Why do extremist groups continue regenerating despite repeated military offensives? Why do fragile communities remain vulnerable to radicalisation? And perhaps most importantly, what kind of post-conflict reconstruction framework truly exists for the North-East?

 

Counterterrorism victories are meaningful only when they translate into lasting civilian security. The humanitarian cost of the insurgency remains staggering. Millions remain displaced. Thousands of children have lost access to education. Farmers in many communities still cannot safely cultivate their lands. Women and girls continue facing profound vulnerabilities within displacement camps. These realities are often overshadowed whenever attention shifts toward high-profile terrorist killings.

 

There is also the broader African dimension. The instability stretching from Nigeria through Niger, Mali, Burkina Faso and Chad reflects a continental security crisis that conventional military responses alone cannot solve. Governance deficits, military coups, climate stress, ethnic rivalries and economic despair collectively create conditions in which extremist networks flourish. Africa’s terrorism crisis is therefore inseparable from its governance crisis.

 

This reality explains why ISIS increasingly views Africa as its future operational base. Weak institutions create strategic opportunities. Vast ungoverned territories provide safe havens. Fragile states offer limited resistance. Unless African governments collectively address these structural weaknesses, extremist networks will continue adapting regardless of how many commanders are eliminated.

 

For grieving communities across the North-East, every disrupted terror network matters. Every prevented attack matters. Every dismantled command structure matters. The operation demonstrates that coordinated intelligence and military cooperation can produce significant results.

 

The true test will lie in what follows next, whether Nigeria can consolidate tactical gains into strategic stability; whether communities devastated by conflict can be genuinely rehabilitated; whether governance can return to neglected territories; and whether the cycle of radicalisation can finally be broken.

 

Alabidun is a media practitioner and can be reached via alabidungoldenson@gmail.com

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Bianca Ojukwu and Nigeria’s Firm Stand Against South African Xenophobia

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Bianca Ojukwu and Nigeria’s Firm Stand Against South African Xenophobia

 

By Boniface Ihiasota

 

In the troubled history of African migration and xenophobic violence, few developments have tested Nigeria’s diplomatic resolve in recent years like the renewed attacks on Africans in South Africa. For many Nigerians in the diaspora, the recurring hostility against fellow Africans in a country once rescued from apartheid partly through African solidarity has become both painful and deeply ironic. At the centre of Nigeria’s latest diplomatic response is the Minister of Foreign Affairs, Bianca Odumegwu-Ojukwu, whose handling of the crisis has drawn attention across the continent.

 

The recent wave of anti-immigrant protests in Johannesburg, Pretoria and Durban reopened old wounds. Foreign nationals, particularly black Africans, were again accused of taking jobs, contributing to crime and burdening public services. Nigerians, as in previous episodes of xenophobic unrest, found themselves among the major targets. In response, Bianca Ojukwu adopted a tone that combined diplomacy with unmistakable firmness.

 

Unlike the cautious language that often characterises African diplomacy, the minister spoke with unusual clarity. She declared publicly that Nigeria “cannot stand by and watch the systematic harassment and humiliation” of its citizens in South Africa. That statement resonated strongly among Nigerians abroad who have long complained that African governments often react too slowly whenever migrants become victims of mob violence or political scapegoating.

 

Her intervention went beyond rhetoric. Nigeria summoned South Africa’s acting High Commissioner in Abuja to explain the situation and demanded full investigations into the deaths of two Nigerians allegedly assaulted by South African security personnel. The Federal Government also requested autopsy reports, legal documentation and accountability measures where wrongdoing is established. These actions signalled that Abuja was no longer willing to treat attacks on Nigerians abroad as isolated incidents.

 

More significantly, Bianca Ojukwu moved swiftly to establish protective mechanisms for Nigerians living in South Africa. Following consultations with President Bola Tinubu and South African authorities, Nigeria directed its diplomatic missions to create crisis response and notification channels for threatened citizens. Nigerians were advised to contact security authorities immediately whenever they felt endangered.

 

Perhaps the most controversial aspect of the government’s response was the decision to begin voluntary repatriation for Nigerians who wished to leave South Africa. According to the minister, at least 130 Nigerians initially registered for evacuation following the protests. While some critics viewed the evacuation plan as a retreat, others saw it as a practical humanitarian measure aimed at protecting lives before violence escalated further.

 

What distinguishes Bianca Ojukwu’s response from previous official reactions is her attempt to redefine the conversation. She questioned whether the attacks should still be described merely as “xenophobia,” arguing that the hostility appeared directed mainly at black Africans. Her suggestion that the crisis increasingly resembles “Afriphobia” touches a sensitive but important continental debate. Why are fellow Africans, rather than Europeans or Asians, often the principal victims of anti-foreigner mobilisation in parts of South Africa?

 

Another remarkable dimension of her intervention was the emphasis on the psychological impact of the crisis on children. The minister disclosed reports that Nigerian children, including those born to Nigerian-South African parents, were allegedly bullied in schools and told to “return to their country.” By highlighting this aspect, she shifted the discourse from statistics and diplomatic statements to the human cost of intolerance.

 

For Nigerians in the diaspora, the significance of this moment goes beyond South Africa alone. It raises broader questions about African unity, migration and the responsibility of governments toward citizens abroad. Diaspora communities often contribute immensely through remittances, investments and international networks, yet many still feel vulnerable whenever crises erupt in host countries.

 

Bianca Ojukwu’s response may not immediately end xenophobic tensions in South Africa, but it has demonstrated a more assertive Nigerian diplomacy, one that seeks not only to protest injustice but also to actively protect citizens. In an era where Africans increasingly migrate within the continent in search of opportunities, governments can no longer afford silence or symbolic outrage. The safety and dignity of Africans, wherever they reside on African soil, must become a continental obligation rather than a diplomatic afterthought.

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