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Why Faking Class And Standards Would Not Attract Real Value

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You cannot fake class; you cannot fake standards. If you don’t have it, you don’t have it. This will be a long read as I’ll be sharing a personal story.

Towards the middle of last year, I was on the phone with my man, and our conversation drifted because I mentioned wanting some time off, a break to rest, get a massage, sleep, eat, and play, even if it was just for two days. He expressed a similar desire. So, he came up with the idea of a staycation at one of the five-star hotels in Nigeria. We traveled and stayed there for five days, and I noticed something every time we went to the hotel restaurant for breakfast or dinner.

Often, I come across TikTok videos of women advising other women on where to go when they want to meet rich, high-value men, and other similar topics. The majority of these women giving these classes aren’t married to any high-networth men; they often come off as hustlers, in my opinion, each time I watch their videos. The women we know who are truly married to high-net-worth men aren’t on the internet teaching these things. I do not disagree that location can determine a lot, but I believe that location alone is not enough.

On the very first day we arrived at the hotel, I noticed many women by the poolside in the evening, flaunting their large backsides and chests. They were either playing in the water or lounging by the pool, and I could sense the hustling spirit in the air. There were also many men, of different races, chilling by the pool. These women were scantily dressed, moving their bodies in a very rhythmic manner. Some were being very intentional and deliberate by bending low and putting their bodies on display for the men. My man whispered in my ear, “These women are hustling hard. You better hold me tight before they snatch me.” We both laughed at his Why Faking Class And Standards Would Not Attract Real Value joke, and a few minutes later, he suggested we go back to our room.

The next morning, when it was time for breakfast, we entered the restaurant, and a lady walked in wearing just panties and a top. When I say panties, I mean they were so revealing that you could see all the corners of her buttocks and thighs. An elderly woman sitting not too far from us cringed when she saw the lady walk in. My man and I exchanged glances and then immediately focused on our food. The lady didn’t sit down; she intentionally dropped her room key so she could bend and show her inner thighs to my man, as her butt was directed toward us. She began shaking her large buttocks in front of us. She stood up and did the same thing in a different direction. I noticed a white man at the other end looking at her through his glasses with disgust. She kept going to the buffet every two minutes to get more food, not because she needed it, but because it gave her another chance to shake her butt in everyone’s face. You could literally feel the side talks and disgust from the guests to the waiters. She even raised her leg at one point, gave her butt a loud spank, and drew the attention of everyone in the restaurant.

At this point, my man hissed, and the elderly woman beside us said, “The hustle is real.” She looked at us, and I nodded in agreement because all the men in the hall that day were clearly disgusted by her behavior. Eventually, she left the restaurant when no man approached her, leaving all the food she had taken from the buffet, what a waste.

That very moment, my mind went back to all these women who teach such things on the internet. Yes, it is true that men of high caliber lodge and stay in certain placthey became successful and rooted by luck? It’s not about putting on a facade; it’s about becoming a woman of substance who naturally draws the right kind of partner. A woman of substance is confident, independent, and deeply rooted in her values and principles. They tell you to dress well, get a good hairstyle, carry nice bags, sit a certain way, talk a certain way, and walk seductively, but all of these are superficial aspects of what makes a woman a person of substance and value. There’s much more to being a woman of substance. Stop raising your standards when you haven’t invested in the things that make you a whole person. Becoming a woman of substance is a journey of self-discovery, growth, and continuous improvement. It’s about building a life that reflects your values and nurturing qualities that go beyond the surface. A high-value man is naturally drawn to a woman who knows her worth, embodies integrity, and lives with purpose. By focusing on becoming the best version of yourself, you won’t have to sit in hotel restaurants and lounges to hawk your body. By focusing on living with purpose and being a person of great value to many, you’ll attract not just a high-value man but the right kind of love and relationship that aligns with who you are at your core. A person of value is never hidden, it’s like sugar; ants will come, and you’ll have the power and choice to decide who to do life with because not all high earning men are high value men but a high value man will possess much more than money. Stop looking for a rich man, stop listening to podcasts on how to catch a wealthy man, and stop hustling for “rich love.” These things are not scarce; they’re only scarce to you because you haven’t done the work that can draw these men to your light. Focus on shining your light and kings will come to the brightness of it. es, but wisdom tells you that they don’t deal with women who have nothing to lose. Even if a man does approach you with such a provocative attitude, it’s likely not for a long-term relationship but to satisfy a fleeting fantasy.

To get the best out of everything, you have to quit the hustling spirit that fuels your desperate approach.

Yes, they tell you where to meet high-value men, but you forget that it’s not just about meeting them, it’s about how to attract them, and it’s not just about attracting them, but about retaining them. If you’re looking for “Yahoo boys” who are loud and flashy with their money, maybe that approach will work. But the actual 1% of the 1%, who are excelling in their industries in this country, aren’t attracted to desperate women, nor are they attracted to women with low standards and intelligence.

Listen to me, I know we always tell you to know your worth and raise your standards, but standards must be backed by substance and value. True high standards are rooted in self-respect, which many of these ladies lack, personal development, which they don’t have, and a commitment to growth. No matter how beautiful you are or how much you try to fake it, there are some men you simply cannot attract even with your BBL and provocative body language. The woman I’m writing about was a very pretty lady with spotless skin, but her rotten behavior and low self-regard repelled the very type of men she wanted. I mean, you saw me sitting right in front of a man, and you’re busy shaking your butt at him. Hustle yen lagbara.

Let me tell you the truth, a low-value woman cannot attract a high-value man. Don’t be deceived by Nollywood movies. Even if you sit in all the lounges and restaurants of the five-star hotels in the world, attracting a high-value man isn’t about playing games because these men are rule players in any sector they belong to. You think they became successful and rooted by luck? It’s not about putting on a facade; it’s about becoming a woman of substance who naturally draws the right kind of partner. A woman of substance is confident, independent, and deeply rooted in her values and principles.

They tell you to dress well, get a good hairstyle, carry nice bags, sit a certain way, talk a certain way, and walk seductively, but all of these are superficial aspects of what makes a woman a person of substance and value. There’s much more to being a woman of substance. Stop raising your standards when you haven’t invested in the things that make you a whole person.

Becoming a woman of substance is a journey of self-discovery, growth, and continuous improvement. It’s about building a life that reflects your values and nurturing qualities that go beyond the surface. A high-value man is naturally drawn to a woman who knows her worth, embodies integrity, and lives with purpose. By focusing on becoming the best version of yourself, you won’t have to sit in hotel restaurants and lounges to hawk your body. By focusing on living with purpose and being a person of great value to many, you’ll attract not just a high-value man but the right kind of love and relationship that aligns with who you are at your core. A person of value is never hidden, it’s like sugar; ants will come, and you’ll have the power and choice to decide who to do life with because not all high earning men are high value men but a high value man will possess much more than money.

Stop looking for a rich man, stop listening to podcasts on how to catch a wealthy man, and stop hustling for “rich love.” These things are not scarce; they’re only scarce to you because you haven’t done the work that can draw these men to your light. Focus on shining your light and kings will come to the brightness of it.

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Is Nasir El-Rufai on the Peril? By Alabidun Shuaib AbdulRahman

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Is Nasir El-Rufai on the Peril? By Alabidun Shuaib AbdulRahman

 

There is something almost Shakespearean about the current phase of Nasir Ahmad El-Rufai’s political journey. Once firmly lodged within Nigeria’s innermost corridors of power, the former governor of Kaduna State now finds himself navigating choppy waters—estranged from elements of the establishment he helped midwife, locked in public disagreements with former allies, and increasingly defined by sharp media interventions rather than executive authority. The question therefore suggests itself with urgency: is Nasir El-Rufai on the peril, politically speaking, or merely repositioning for another audacious ascent?

 

To answer that, one must first understand the architecture of his rise. El-Rufai has always thrived at the intersection of intellect and insurgency. From his days as Director-General of the Bureau of Public Enterprises to his tenure as Minister of the Federal Capital Territory between 2003 and 2007, he cultivated the persona of a reformer unafraid of entrenched interests. In Abuja, he enforced the capital’s master plan with relentless precision, demolishing structures deemed illegal and digitising land administration through the Abuja Geographic Information System. Admirers saw courage; critics saw cold technocracy. But none doubted his influence.

 

His political resurrection after years in relative exile was equally strategic. As a central figure in the coalition that birthed the All Progressives Congress in 2013, El-Rufai demonstrated both tactical patience and elite networking. The APC’s 2015 victory was not merely a partisan turnover; it was a reconfiguration of Nigeria’s power map. In securing the governorship of Kaduna State that same year, El-Rufai transitioned from federal reform czar to subnational executive with a mandate to replicate structural transformation.

 

Kaduna was never going to be an easy laboratory. With its near parity of Muslim and Christian populations and a history of sectarian volatility, governance required not only administrative efficiency but also delicate social navigation. El-Rufai chose the path he knew best—structural reform. He implemented a Treasury Single Account to streamline finances, overhauled the civil service, and embarked on sweeping education reforms that culminated in the disengagement of more than 20,000 primary school teachers who failed competency tests. The state borrowed heavily for infrastructure, betting that long-term growth would justify short-term fiscal strain.

 

To his supporters, these were acts of bold leadership in a polity allergic to tough decisions. To his critics, they revealed a governor more comfortable with spreadsheets than sentiments. Southern Kaduna’s recurrent violence further complicated his record. His insistence on framing the crisis largely as criminality rather than ethno-religious persecution was analytically defensible in some respects, yet politically combustible. Perception hardened into distrust among segments of the population who felt unseen and unheard.

 

Even so, he secured re-election in 2019, proof that reform and controversy can coexist in Nigeria’s electoral calculus. But it was the transition from governor to elder statesman that has proven most perilous.

 

El-Rufai entered the 2023 political season as a visible ally of President Bola Tinubu during the APC primaries. His intellectual heft and northern pedigree positioned him as a bridge-builder within the party’s power arithmetic. When Tinubu won the presidency, many assumed El-Rufai would feature prominently in the new administration. His nomination as a minister appeared to confirm that trajectory until the Senate declined to confirm him, reportedly citing security concerns.

 

In Nigerian politics, symbolism often outweighs substance. The rejection was more than procedural; it signalled a rupture. For a politician accustomed to shaping events rather than reacting to them, the development marked a subtle but unmistakable shift from insider to outsider. Since then, his public commentary has grown more pointed. He has questioned the direction of the ruling party, hinted at betrayals, and portrayed himself as a custodian of principles sidelined by expediency.

 

Is this evidence of peril or repositioning?

 

There are at least three dimensions to consider. The first is institutional. El-Rufai no longer controls a state apparatus. Without the leverage of executive office, influence must be exerted through persuasion, coalition-building and narrative framing. This transition is difficult for leaders whose authority was reinforced by command structures. His recent media engagements which implies candid, combative and occasionally accusatory suggest a man recalibrating his tools.

 

The second dimension is relational. Politics is sustained by networks, and networks are sustained by trust. Reports of mistrusts between El-Rufai and key federal figures, as well as friction with his successor in Kaduna, complicate his positioning. In Kaduna, reviews of past contracts and policies have cast shadows backward, feeding narratives of vendetta on both sides. At the federal level, silence has often met his critiques, a strategy that can either isolate a critic or amplify him, depending on public mood.

 

The third dimension is strategic. Nigeria’s political elite operates in long cycles. Conversations about 2027 are already underway in quiet rooms. El-Rufai’s national profile, intellectual agility and northern base make him a potential factor in any future coalition calculus. His current dissent may therefore be less about grievance and more about differentiation—an effort to craft an identity distinct from a government facing economic and security headwinds.

 

Yet peril remains a real possibility. Nigeria’s political memory can be unforgiving. Leaders who overplay their hand risk alienation from both establishment and grassroots. If El-Rufai’s critiques are perceived as personal vendetta rather than principled dissent, his moral capital may erode. Moreover, the electorate has grown increasingly wary of elite quarrels that appear disconnected from everyday hardship. A politician who once sold reform as necessity must now demonstrate empathy as convincingly as efficiency.

 

Still, history suggests that El-Rufai has often converted adversity into opportunity. After leaving the Obasanjo administration under clouds of controversy, he returned stronger within a new coalition. After early resistance in Kaduna, he consolidated his authority and reshaped the state’s administrative culture. His career has been punctuated by phases of apparent crisis followed by strategic resurgence.

 

The deeper question may not be whether he is on the peril, but whether Nigeria’s political environment can accommodate his style of engagement. El-Rufai thrives on intellectual contestation and structural overhaul. He is less adept at the slow, conciliatory art of consensus politics. In a federation where legitimacy often rests on accommodation as much as achievement, this imbalance can be costly.

 

There is also the matter of narrative control. El-Rufai has long been his own chief spokesman, deploying social media and interviews with precision. In the absence of political office as he is currently, narrative becomes power. His recent outbursts once again keep him in the national conversation. Silence would have signified retreat.

 

So, is Nasir El-Rufai on the peril? The answer is layered. Institutionally, yes—he stands as an outsider in the power structure he once influenced. Relationally, yes—alliances appear strained and rivalries sharpened. Strategically, however, peril can be prelude. In politics, moments of vulnerability often precede recalibration and El-Rufai has always been a master of that.

 

Ultimately, El-Rufai’s future will hinge on whether he can transform dissent into constructive coalition-building. If he remains defined by grievance, the peril may deepen into isolation. If he channels critique into a broader vision that resonates beyond elite circles, the current turbulence could become a staging ground.

 

For now, he occupies an ambiguous space: not dethroned, not enthroned; neither silenced nor fully embraced. In that ambiguity lies both danger and possibility. Nasir El-Rufai has built a career on defying expectations. Whether this chapter marks decline or reinvention will depend less on his adversaries than on his capacity to balance conviction with conciliation.

 

The peril, if it exists, is not merely political. It is existential—the risk that a man defined by reform and combat may struggle in an era demanding reconciliation and breadth. But in Nigeria’s ever-shifting theatre of power, yesterday’s peril can become tomorrow’s platform.

 

Alabidun is a media practitioner and can be reached via alabidungoldenson@gmail.com

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Nigeria – US Defence Cooperation: A Reflection from the Diaspora, by Boniface Ihiasota 

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Nigeria – US Defence Cooperation: A Reflection from the Diaspora, by Boniface Ihiasota 

 

The defence relationship between Nigeria and the United States represents one of the most complex and consequential aspects of Nigeria’s foreign policy in the 21st century. Rooted in decades of military engagement, training, strategic dialogue, intelligence sharing, and equipment acquisition, this partnership reflects shared interests in regional stability, combating violent extremism, and strengthening military institutions. For many in the Nigerian diaspora, this cooperation carries both hopes for enhanced security at home and concerns about sovereignty, national strategy, and the implications of external influence.

 

At its core, Nigeria-US defence cooperation has evolved from traditional military diplomacy to a more multi-faceted, operational collaboration. Since the early 2000s, the United States has provided sustained security sector assistance to Nigeria. According to U.S. government data, more than $232 million in security support was delivered between 2000 and 2021, with notifications of $593 million in Foreign Military Sales and approximately $305 million in direct commercial defence sales to support counter-terrorism, border security, and professionalization of the Nigerian Armed Forces. In 2022 the U.S. announced nearly $997 million in a major foreign military sale that included attack helicopters and associated training as part of long-term capability enhancement.

 

In practical terms, the partnership nurtures capacity building, professional military education, and logistics cooperation. Both nations have exchanged senior military leaders and engaged in joint strategic dialogues to align responses to shared threats. Nigerian defence officials and U.S. counterparts have regularly convened to strengthen frameworks for cooperation, reaffirming commitments to respect Nigeria’s sovereignty while leveraging U.S. technical expertise.

 

As insecurity in Nigeria has worsened, especially with the prolonged insurgency of Boko Haram and the Islamic State West Africa Province (ISWAP) as well as rising banditry and extremist violence, the practical aspects of the partnership have taken on heightened urgency. Recent developments illustrate this vividly. In early 2026, Nigeria formally invited additional U.S. military support for training, intelligence sharing, and technical assistance. Nigeria’s Defence Headquarters on Monday confirmed the arrival of about 100 U.S. military personnel and equipment at Bauchi, with planned joint training exercises aimed at enhancing Nigerian troops’ capacity to detect and neutralize extremist groups. Local authorities clarified that the U.S. personnel serve in advisory and training roles, under Nigerian command, in line with bilateral agreements and respect for Nigerian sovereignty.

 

In neighboring Abuja and among diaspora communities, these movements sparked broad discussions about what external military involvement means for Nigeria’s autonomy and long-term security strategy. Advocacy groups like Citizens for Strategic Defence Cooperation have publicly endorsed the expanded partnership while stressing that it does not erode Nigeria’s sovereignty. They describe the engagement as “measured and strategic,” focused on capacity building, intelligence systems, and joint problem-solving rather than occupation or direct combat.

 

Beyond boots on the ground, the United States has engaged Nigeria in targeted counter-terrorism operations. In late 2025, the U.S. carried out airstrikes against Islamic State-linked camps in northwest Nigeria with Nigerian approval, employing precision guided munitions through U.S. Africa Command (AFRICOM) platforms. These strikes were designed to disrupt militant networks operating from Sahel corridors and were followed by coordinated intelligence sharing.

 

Still, the defence cooperation is not without controversy. In the diaspora, commentary reflects a spectrum of views: from optimism about the gains in confronting violent extremism to unease about foreign intervention and the framing of Nigeria’s internal conflicts in international discourse. Former U.S. statements by political leaders, including those linking Nigeria’s actions to religious persecution or threatening aid cuts, have sometimes strained diplomatic goodwill, prompting the Nigerian government to clarify its position and reject broad characterizations of the security situation.

 

Nonetheless, there are tangible operational outcomes that diaspora stakeholders often highlight as evidence of positive cooperation. Enhanced intelligence sharing has contributed to improved situational awareness for Nigerian forces during operations like Operation Hadin Kai in the North East and Operation Fasan Yamma in the northwest. The timely delivery of military hardware — including drones, helicopters, spare parts, and support systems — pledged by the U.S. demonstrates a sustained material investment in Nigeria’s defence architecture.

 

For many Nigerians abroad, this partnership epitomizes the balancing act between external support and internal agency. On one hand, there is recognition that no nation is an island in confronting transnational threats. On the other, there is a persistent call for transparency, accountability, and strategies that prioritize civilian protection and national ownership of security frameworks.

 

In conclusion, Nigeria–U.S. defence cooperation is a nuanced, evolving relationship rooted in shared interests and longstanding military engagement. While it brings considerable resources, training, and strategic depth to Nigeria’s fight against violent extremism, it also requires careful navigation of national interests, sovereignty considerations, and public perceptions — both at home and within the vibrant Nigerian diaspora. Ensuring that this cooperation yields tangible security improvements without undermining national autonomy remains a shared challenge for both nations.

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Nigeria’s Tax Reforms and the Diaspora, by Boniface Ihiasota

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Nigeria’s Tax Reforms and the Diaspora, by Boniface Ihiasota

 

For Nigerians living abroad, tax policy at home has often felt distant, until the recent overhaul of Nigeria’s tax framework brought it sharply into focus. The passage of the Nigeria Tax Act, which took effect from January 1, 2026, triggered anxiety across diaspora communities, fuelled largely by fears that earnings abroad or personal remittances would now attract Nigerian tax. A closer reading of the reforms, however, shows that Nigeria is not charting a radical or punitive course against its diaspora. Instead, it is aligning more closely with internationally accepted principles of taxation based on residency and income source.

 

At the heart of the reform is a clearer definition of tax residency. Under the new framework, individuals who spend 183 days or more within Nigeria over a 12-month period, or who maintain a permanent home or substantial economic ties in the country, are considered tax residents. Only such residents are liable to tax on their worldwide income. Nigerians who live and work abroad and do not meet these conditions remain non-residents and are taxable in Nigeria only on income sourced within the country. This distinction is critical because it dispels the widespread notion that citizenship alone now triggers tax liability.

 

The Federal Government, through the Presidential Fiscal Policy and Tax Reforms Committee, has repeatedly clarified that income earned abroad by non-resident Nigerians is not subject to Nigerian tax, even when such income is remitted home. Remittances sent to family members for upkeep, education, healthcare or personal support are not classified as taxable income. This position is particularly significant given that Nigeria received an estimated $20.5 billion in diaspora remittances in 2023, according to World Bank data, making it one of Africa’s largest recipients. Taxing such flows would not only have been impractical but economically counterproductive.

 

When viewed in a global context, Nigeria’s approach is far from unusual. Most countries operate either a residence-based or source-based tax system. In the United Kingdom, for instance, non-residents are taxed only on UK-sourced income, such as rental income from property located in Britain. Canada applies similar rules, taxing non-residents only on income earned within Canada, while residents are taxed on worldwide income. China also follows a residency threshold of 183 days, beyond which global income becomes taxable. Nigeria’s reforms fit squarely within this international pattern.

 

Only a handful of countries take a different approach. The United States is the most prominent example, taxing citizens on their worldwide income regardless of where they live. U.S. citizens abroad are required to file annual tax returns and comply with foreign account reporting rules, though credits and exclusions exist to mitigate double taxation. Eritrea operates a similar system, levying a two per cent diaspora tax on its citizens overseas. Nigeria has explicitly rejected this model, opting instead for a system that balances revenue generation with global mobility and fairness.

 

Where tax obligations do arise for Nigerians in the diaspora is in relation to Nigerian-sourced income. Rental income from property in Abuja or Lagos, dividends from Nigerian companies, or profits from businesses operating within Nigeria remain taxable, regardless of where the individual resides. In many cases, such taxes are collected through withholding mechanisms and treated as final, reducing administrative burdens on non-residents. This is consistent with global practice and reflects the principle that income should be taxed where economic value is created.

 

The reforms also strengthen Nigeria’s use of Double Taxation Agreements, which the country has signed with several nations including the United Kingdom, Canada, China and South Africa. These treaties are designed to prevent the same income from being taxed twice and to provide clarity on taxing rights between countries. For Nigerians abroad who may still qualify as tax residents due to time spent at home or strong economic ties, these agreements offer essential safeguards.

 

Beyond individual taxation, the reforms signal a broader shift in Nigeria’s fiscal strategy. By simplifying tax laws, adjusting personal income tax thresholds and expanding digital compliance systems, the government aims to widen the tax net without placing undue pressure on vulnerable groups or discouraging diaspora engagement. For Nigerians abroad, this clarity matters. Many invest in property, startups and family enterprises back home, and uncertainty around taxation has long been a deterrent.

 

Ultimately, the significance of Nigeria’s tax reforms for the diaspora lies not in new burdens, but in clearer rules. They reaffirm that Nigerians abroad are not taxed simply for being Nigerian, nor for supporting families at home. Instead, tax obligations are tied to presence, economic activity and income source, in line with global norms. For a country whose diaspora plays a vital role in economic stability and development, this alignment is not just sensible policy, but a necessary reassurance.

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